Come celebrate our residency at Sanctuary! Every third Sunday! Read below for more info!
Required dress code: black
Sensual Dance presents THE SUMMONING: a Dark Sensual Dance event designed by dancers for dancers as a sensual, no-sex-allowed dance journey! Singles and couples friendly! Poly & Monogamy friendly! Partner/fusion dancers, solo/ecstatic dancers, and dance-curious kink community folks are all welcome!
Stay for Oh My Goth afterwards where you can stay and play late into the night!
SCHEDULE
Pre-party classes recommended (see above)
6PM The Summoning
8PM Oh My Goth
THE SUMMONING SPECIAL RULES
– Dress code: wear black ♡
– Please no bottomless nudity (lingerie/underwear is great) ♡
– Even without bottomless nudity, please no genital area contact with hands, faces, or toys (grinding WITH CONSENT is welcomed of course ~ see consent tips below) ♡
– Please pre-negotiate boundaries before touching or partner dancing or pampering or playing with anybody. This is not commonly a requirement at partner dances. But you will need to do this here. ♡
– Hint: If verbalizing boundaries feels awkward or difficult for you in a partner dance context, consider just partner dancing with people you know and asking them to dance with you like they already do elsewhere without any new escalations beyond that. That’s a great ice breaker dance! ♡
– Support: Some folks may be available for you to practice talking about consent with. We may announce them in between DJ sets! ♡
CONSENT TIPS
At a minimum, we recommend talking about “The Five Verbals” before partner dancing:
GUSHING: ask if they’re comfortable giving you a no before “gushing” i.e. asking for erotic dancing, dirty talking, or giving erotic compliments ♡
GLIDING: ask before “gliding” your hands on people i.e. caressing, rubbing, massaging, hairplay, etc. ♡
GRINDING: ask before “grinding” i.e. connecting pelvis-to-pelvis, body-to-body friction ♡
GRABBING: ask before “grabbing” bodies, body parts, hair, clothes, props ♡
GRIPPING: ask before “gripping” i.e. tight gripping / tight holding / trapping ♡
(Source/Credit: SensualDance.com)
BE HUMBLE & BACKTRACK AS NEEDED
We understand that pre-negotiating boundaries before touching others is new for a lot of dancers and people may forget to do this while having good intentions. If you find yourself partner dancing without pre-negotiated boundaries, please pause or solo dance in order to take time to talk about boundaries. At Sensual Dance events, it’s extra cool to be humble and backtrack to a consent convo as needed. We understand that we are building a NEW kind of dance culture: a SENSUAL DANCE culture, where solo dancing, partner dancing, and sensuality are all celebrated together! This is WORK – and it’s FUN WORK. By being here, you are a part of this work. Thanks for doing the work to build and maintain a safer space, and trying your best! ♡
ACCOUNTABILITY & RESTORATIVE PRACTICES
Please report any consent concerns to Daniel Oliver or a safety monitor, and we will coach them onsite, limit their freedoms for the remainder of the event, and/or assign offsite classes to them as appropriate. Of course, serious boundary violations are grounds for removal and may require an endorsement from an approved consent professional prior to restored access. And of course, the club itself also has the right to enforce its policies and preferences, and we honor them! ♡
CLUB’S GENERAL RULES
Hard No’s: fire play, blade play, breath play, fluid play, food play, fighting, weapons, or race play.
Sanctuary’s guests are asked to read, verbally agree to, and comply with our Guiding Principles:
KINDNESS, RESPECT, AND CONSENT
Upon entering Sanctuary you agree to uphold these principles.
CONSENT:
Consent is a clear and unambiguous agreement, expressed outwardly through mutually understandable words or actions, to engage in a particular activity. Consent can be withdrawn by either party at any point.
RESPECT:
Unless invited, keep a respectful distance from play.
“No” means “No” (see CONSENT).
Touch AFTER invited (see CONSENT).
Know your boundaries and state them clearly.
KINDNESS:
Don’t be a dick.
Speak well of others.
Do not be disruptive.
Make introductions, create community.
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Q&A for THE SUMMONING:
Q: Who can I invite?
A: That’s up to you. ♡
Q: What’s your overall intention here?
A: A safe, sensual, sexy af vibe at Sanctuary, catering to DANCERS, where people feel invited and welcomed and liberated at a whole new level. Having processed the feedback of over 1,000 dancers at my events, a good chunk of them have expressed that no event I currently produce feels like a 10 out of 10 on “liberation”. This will be a step up in that direction, but also hold boundaries of no bottomless nudity and no sex allowed until the event is over and a separate event begins. ♡
Q: Can I solo dance?
A: Yes that’s probably what half the people will be doing half the time. Solo dancing is a great way to hangout and talk to people and get to know them and talk consent. ♡
Q: Can I partner dance?
A: Yes, the music will be curated to always be a sweet time in partnered connection. ♡
Q: What will the music be like?
A: It will be extremely focused on what many of us call “danceable” music that feels danceable not just for solo dancing but ALSO for partner dancing. But without long gaps of silence between the songs, so it’ll feel like a constant dark and sexy dream. We will play a good dose of downtempo/slow music to help you relax into your body, but there will also be a variety. ♡
Q: What is OH MY GOTH?
A: OH MY GOTH is the event that already happens at Sanctuary from 8PM TO CLOSE. It’s primarily a play party, not primarily a dance party, but you can definitely just hangout and dance there. It starts immediately after THE SUMMONING is over. I’ve been there multiple times and it’s been remarkably chill in my experiences, pretty much just a goth club in the main social area, with a few couples or groups getting frisky at any given time, other than the designated areas where that’s the focus. In other words, it didn’t feel overstimulating to me, personally. That’s just my minimal experiences. Be sure to ask the OH MY GOTH hosts about their rules. ♡
Q: How much extra $ is OH MY GOTH?
A: OH MY GOTH is no extra cost. ♡
Q: Will there be nudity allowed?
A: Tops on or off is fine. No bottomless nudity allowed at THE SUMMONING, but you can stay after our event is over, and enjoy OH MY GOTH as a gothic kink party where bottomless nudity is an option. Be sure to ask the OH MY GOTH hosts about their rules. ♡
